Is it possible to love a stranger

Language becomes a bit sharper; we find ourselves criticizing and complaining about our spouse more often. It happens. We cut them slack. Couples who have been together for some time might not think to, say, offer thanks for taking out the garbage or holding a door. But you would do that for a stranger. This also extends to the way you react to each other in stressful situations. After all, if you were going to have an affair with someone, you would most likely try and look your best, act your best, and certainly treat them the best way they can be treated, right?

But in this sense, with regards to compliments, dressing up to look your best, and wanting to win over the heart of your lover at all times. So, what should you do when fall in love with a stranger?

Hopefully, this article can shed some light on what to do if you're in this situation, and add some reasons as to why we feel so strongly about people we don't know. There is a vast difference between being infatuated by someone and falling in love. So first, before you run over to this stranger and see if they want to start something, it's best to figure out what it is that you're feeling.

Both situations have similar feelings attached to them, but their definitions, as found in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, are very different. The definition of love is to feel "a warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion to another person. People can feel infatuation towards others very quickly, and lust is a vital player in it. So, if you're feeling a strong sexual connection and you're focused on the physical aspects of this person, rather than their spirit and mind too, it's time to think.

You might want to rip the other person's clothes off as fast as possible, but ask yourself - do you want to get to know this person and would you want to spend the rest of your life with them? If the answer is no, then infatuation is most likely what you are experiencing.

In the situation of feeling like you're falling in love with a stranger, it probably is infatuation. This is because you most likely won't have spoken to them for very long, if at all. To be able to fall in love with someone entirely, you need to want to get to know them better and envisage a future with this person. So, unless you have concluded that you're feeling a connection to the person as a whole, not just their physical characteristics - what your experiencing is most likely infatuation.

Now it's important to note that being infatuated with someone is still an excellent feeling, but it can still be tough. You might feel a burning passion towards someone that you can't control. In this situation, because you don't see the person as a long-term option, I would strongly suggest trying to forget about it and move on. This might be difficult, but it is the best option. It's also important to note that infatuation rarely lasts a long time, so don't worry about feeling obsessed about someone for too long — it will pass.

However, if you feel like you can't control your lustful longing for them anymore and you feel the need to tell them about it, you may as well do it.

I only suggest this because you will have made sure that you are not falling in love with them, so it is most likely that you won't end up hurt by; however, they respond. If they agree and also feel lust towards you, then you are in a good situation — you make use of all your sexual tension , and when your passion for them is fulfilled, you can put the idea of them, to rest.

However, it is imperative for me to tell you that if you are not one hundred per cent sure about your emotions, it is best not to jump into bed with them, as you could feel very hurt further down the line. So you have come to the definite conclusion that what you're feeling towards this stranger is love. Falling in love can feel confusing and tricky at the best of times, and this is only amplified if you don't even know the person you're in love with.

I'm sure if you're confident that you're falling in love with this person, your answer is going to be yes. If it's no, we will deal with this a little later on in the article. But while you're reading, maybe ask yourself why you don't want to take the risk. If you're ready to leap into the risk and get to know this stranger, the first thing to do is the next time you see them, make sure you speak to them.

This could be a little tricky if they're someone you saw on the subway once, but as I spoke of earlier, that kind of situation is most probably infatuation. The stranger you are falling in love with will most likely be someone you see, but don't know, regularly. After all, social media makes it so easy to build relationships. Almost anyone in the world is merely a direct message away. Can we really fall in love with strangers when how they represent their lives may not be the reality?

I speak from personal experience here. I never thought of myself as inauthentic. I believed a lot of my own story, and for years, I was in a marriage where I rarely mentioned my then-husband.

It caused some curiosity, but the few times I posted about him, it was in glowingly positive terms. All the way up until I revealed that I had gotten divorced. I once knew a man who had multiple Facebook pages.

He needed to appear very much single while running game on probably a dozen different women. The pieces started clicking into place for me when I noticed the multiple personal accounts, the generic messages, and the strange hours he was available to communicate with me.

It was a tentative connection that he tried to make into something more — and failed spectacularly when I realized what he was all about. But at the same time, the intoxication feeling of infatuation is still exciting. And like a burning strong desire to have something lust. It will be all up to you either you wanna tell that person what is going on or else you prefer to move on. As falling for a stranger is not the best option in most of cases.

Therefore, until and unless you decide your connection with that person as whole chemistry. Lastly, you can fall in love many times not only with some random guy. But the thing that matters is finding someone worth loving, in this day and age where love is under a GAME. Please follow and like us:. Post Views: September 18, How to spice up your Relationship? March 25,